The definition of love in Buddhism is: wanting others to be happy.
This love is unconditional and it requires a lot of courage and acceptance (including self-acceptance).
The "near enemy" of love, or a quality which appears similar, but is more an opposite is: conditional love (selfish love, see also the page on attachment).
The opposite is wanting others to be unhappy: anger, hatred.
A result which one needs to avoid is: attachment.
This definition means that 'love' in Buddhism refers to something quite different from the ordinary term of love which is usually about attachment, more or less successful relationships and sex; all of which are rarely without self-interest. Instead, in Buddhism it refers to de-tachment and the unselfish interest in others' welfare.
'Even offering three hundred bowls of food three times a day does not match the spiritual merit gained in one moment of love.'
Nagarjuna"If there is love, there is hope that one may have real families, real brotherhood, real equanimity, real peace. If the love within your mind is lost and you see other beings as enemies, then no matter how much knowledge or education or material comfort you have, only suffering and confusion will ensue"
His Holiness the Dalai Lama from 'The little book of Buddhism'
so briefly tell u why i am using this? Cuz i wanna have love and compassion for all. This is equal to all with a slight difference on how much they nid. I wonder why am i so obsessed with love nowadays, is it realli so desperate for mi to have love? I already have some practice in loving kindness(metta) le yet i am not satisfied? I think i am some kinda person who is beyond hope. No hope for mi liao le lo... Simple things yet i make it feel so complicated. But simplicity is a virtue, wondering why i always make things so complicated.COMPASSION
The definition is: wanting others to be free from suffering.
This compassion happens when one feels sorry with someone, and one feels an urge to help.
The near enemy is pity, which keeps other at a distance, and does not urge one to help.
The opposite is wanting others to suffer, or cruelty.
A result which one needs to avoid is sentimentality.
Compassion thus refers to an unselfish, de-tached emotion which gives one a sense of urgency in wanting to help others. From a Buddhist perspective, helping others to reduce their physical or mental suffering is very good, but the ultimate goal is to extinguish all suffering by stopping the process of rebirth and the suffering that automatically comes with living (enlightenment).The attitude of a so-called Bodhisattva is Bodhicitta: this is the ultimate compassionate motivation: the wish to liberate all sentient beings from the sufferings of cyclic existence and to become a fully enlightened Buddha oneself in order to act as the perfect guide for them.
(See also the page on compassion.)
56 The sting of death is sin, and the strength of sin is the law. 57 But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.
58 Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.
17 Where you die, I will die,
And there will I be buried.
The LORD do so to me, and more also,
If anything but death parts you and me.”
Theme of the post - Crazy over you.
Why would i use this verse for my post? Cuz this is something inspired by my friend, saying that he loves his stead a lot, and is related to this quote.
I would like to break into parts for this verse. mainly
friends
family
lovers
brothers and sisters
special someone
and a few more than u can think of.
I would apply this to family, bro n sis, lovers and special someone.
We must bear in mind for those with a complete family and also those who are broken yet with a near complete family. u guys must treasure your family members well. Yes they will nag at us most of the time, but that is how they show us their love to us u see. For example, why mothers nags and cares more for their child than most fathers did for them? reason very simple. Because they know how u feel more than the fathers did.
We were once in their womb for around 10mths, these 10 mths, they suffered in pain and blood just to carry us and gave us the life to this world. There is a song saying, no matter what they say, words dun bring us down, we are who we are and that is how we look. We can further enhance the packing w/ content improved in too. But it is not an easy task i tell u. Enough of it, shall go to the next one.
bro and sis
Be in religious bro/sis, blood bonded bro/sis, named god bro/sis, they are still your closest ones. Sometimes when u had done something wrong, you would not dare to approach your parents first especially u can predict that they will scold u or give you some beatings.
Sometimes can be very close bonding between them that what had actually happened to anyone of them, they will step out to help them, no matter how poor, difficult, harsh or even how easy that can be. They will step out o help you cuz they simple love you. So when one separates from the other, there will always be sadness, grievance and also anger. Saying so much why did u leave me, do u know how important you are in my life and so on? These kinda images, not only can be found on tv screens but also real life events.
Lastly will be lovers and special someone.
Basically these two does not differ much, cuz they are simply under the same category, difference is that, one is of true feelings with commitments yet another is of feelings but not committed to it.
Lovers basically depends on each other, for their love care and concern, for "fun" and laughter of both kinds, joy and also the times where they can do things out in the public with their friends and family.
Special someone is like someone who is close yet dun dare to commit yet they love each other. Sounds contradicting rite? Actually, was not that bad. Still get to see the person u like but unable to commit to each other nia.
Back to my theme, crazy over you....
Yes everytime i look into your eyes, there is always a feeling that i can bear to depart with u, hoping that i can hug u tightly and say i love u. Sounds sweet right, but i doubt it will happen. cuz that person is attached le. So what can i do? Treat that person under one of the categories as mentioned above? yes i am doing it over the years. But it does gives mi happiness and sadness lo.
Okay lar, continue another day cuz i nid to sleep and work tmr...
To be continued? We shall see...